People who hate me and people I hate, if you had to choose between the two, who would you choose? Everyone's answer to this is different, but what is certain is that no matter which situation, you will feel uncomfortable inside. In daily life, we will inevitably encounter similar dilemmas, and all we can do is learn how to deal with them tactfully in advance.
When facing people who hate me, I have to act confidently. The thought of the other person not liking me makes me cringe for no apparent reason. First of all, we have to remember one thing: the more the other person hates me, the more influential I will be. Because my mere presence will make the other person very uncomfortable. So the best way to make my haters feel the same pain is to act more comfortable.
Use these 8 ways to deal with people who hate you
So, what should I do if someone hates me?
1. Calculate how many people hate me and how many people like me.
If you think about that number, you will feel that the people who hate me are insignificant.
2. Recognize the facts and accept that you cannot be liked by everyone.
No matter how popular a celebrity is, there are bound to be so-called "anti-fans." Of course, if you are disliked by someone, you will inevitably feel bitter and uncomfortable inside, but as long as you are human, you must live with such trauma.
3. If the other person is friendly in front of me, then just turn a blind eye or close one eye!
That is to say, although the other party said bad things about me behind my back, when we actually met, he pretended that he had never done it and behaved quite enthusiastically. We will discuss this part further later.
4. If the other person shows a disgusted expression in front of me, I can ask in a surprised tone:
"Did I make you unhappy? Did I do anything wrong?" Especially in an innocent and innocent way, "I don't know anything." "The attitude conveys the message "I don't mean any harm, but I feel that you are uncomfortable because of me."
If you adopt the attitude of "I'm unhappy because of you too", the war will begin immediately. If you originally want to quarrel with the other party, then it doesn't matter if you express your actual emotions; if you want to solve the problem satisfactorily, there is no need to deliberately create enemies.
5. Give up unrealistic expectations.
Don't think that people who hate me will one day like me, hate, like, cold, warm... What kind of emotion you want to use to treat me depends on the choice of the emotion owner, which is not something I can interfere with.
6. Do not be affected by your behavior, as if the other person is not important to me at all.
If you feel angry or hurt by the other person's words or deeds, it is equivalent to letting the other person get what he wants. He may also secretly rejoice in his heart and feel that his success makes me feel uncomfortable. Therefore, when we meet, it is best to say hello as usual, and even if the other person deliberately provokes me, I must show that I don't care.
7. Enjoy time with people who cherish me.
We are hurt by people and healed by people. People who hate me can't heal my wounds, so please go for walks, eat delicious food, and spend quality time with people who respect you!
8. Repay evil with uprightness.
There was such a conversation between Confucius and his disciples. One day, someone asked Confucius: "How about repaying evil with kindness?" Confucius replied: "How to repay kindness?" Seeing that his disciple could not answer, Confucius continued: "Repay evil with uprightness, and repay kindness with kindness." In other words, it is better to use uprightness to treats enemies. Unless others treat me with kindness, I will repay them with kindness.
However, if the other party not only vents negative emotions but also engages in torturous behavior, a complaint or report must be made in accordance with legal procedures.
